Do We Really Know How To Love?


We live in a world today that “loves” everything and because of that, and our lack of ways to say love, it looses it’s potency. Today people look for things that are genuine and not fake, they want something that is real, but unfortunately they try to find genuine based on how they feel about it. If it feels fake in anyway they turn away from it. On the other hand, if it feels real then they will run to it. This is unfortunately how we determine love these days. What most people don’t realize is that we can’t follow our emotions, we can’t let them lead our decisions. Jeremiah 17:9 says,

“The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is?”

If our heart, the seat of our emotions, is deceitful and wicked, then how can we trust it to tell us when we love someone? Okay, so if we can’t trust our own heart and emotions, then what can we trust and follow? Romans 12:1-2 says,

“…I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice—the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him. Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.” (emphasis mine)

We trust and follow what God says in His Word. He says that we need to die to the sinful nature we were born into, what our deceitful heart wants, and to allow Him to transform our thinking. So, what does our transformed thinking look like in this area?
In 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 God tells us what love truly is.

He says that love…
…is patient and kind
…is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude
…does not demand it’s own way
…is not irritable, and keeps no record of being wronged
…does not rejoice about injustice, but rejoices whenever the truth wins out
…never gives up
…never loses faith
…is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

This is what love looks like when we approach it with the transformed thinking that God gives us. Now, I know most people are probably thinking of a romantic relationship when they hear all this about love, but that is only one side of it. Matthew 22:39 says,

“A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’”

This is not only what a romantic relationship looks like, it is what loving anyone and everyone should like. This is not easy! It seems basically impossible. The thing that makes loving people this way even remotely possible is to actually know love, not just know what it is and what it’s about, but to know love. How do we know love? We know God. 1 John 4:8 says,

“But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love.”

This also means that if you do not know God, then you don’t know love. To know and have a relationship with God is to be able to love like He does, but we will never love properly until we accept and receive the love that God give us.

So I encourage you! Get to know love, get to know the One who gave up His Son for you.
I challenge you to allow God to transform your thinking and love others, anyone and everyone, friend and stranger a like, like He loves us.

Just A Thought From The King’s Daughter

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